Temporary Solo Parenting

Temporary Solo Parenting

I meant to write this last week, when Kirk was actually traveling. Unfortunately, being the only parent around means everything falls on me, so there’s little time to do anything other than keep everyone alive. I’m sitting here trying to remember what exactly we did for those 6 days that Kirk was in Europe, but I’m totally drawing a blank. I think I just blacked out until he came home. Several people asked me where he was, and whether this trip was for business or pleasure. It made me laugh every single time- as if he would ever take a week-long European vacation and leave me at home with two kids FOR FUN. Not happening.

We definitely stayed busy that week- did something fun pretty much every day, which helps the time fly by.

Monday was SOS (what Reid calls “sail camp”), basically where younger kids go to learn about sailing, boat and water safety, etc. Kirk usually takes him (since he is the sailor in the family) but I did it this week. It was pouring rain, so the kids hung out in the shed and the parents got to go to the clubhouse (aka, have drinks and dinner). Not too bad, actually. Oh, except for the part where Reid was walking next to the water kicking his feet and his shoe FLEW off and landed in the water. I had to shimmy on my stomach to grab it and nearly fell in. Good times.

Normally I work out at 5:30 AM, but apparently it’s “not appropriate” to leave your 4 year old and baby home alone for a couple hours to go to the gym. So, Sydney and I had some Crossfit playdates while Reid was at camp in the morning. I’m not sure how this would work if she was crawling, but overall she did pretty well! I did have to stop a few times to feed her or throw some toys her way, but the desire to finish before she started crying was pretty motivating.

Wednesday night was time for ME! Some friends and I planned this outing a few weeks ago- a little ladies’ dinner at Georgetown in Lakewood. The weather was absolutely perfect to sit on the patio and have some drinks and dinner. The food was amazing, the service was sub-par- but honestly, I was with my friends, not having to put anyone to bed, so it didn’t matter. Next time Kirk travels for a week, I’m definitely doing this again- booking something for me in the middle of the week. It was really nice to talk to adults with dinner and not play 700 rounds of “I spy.”

Friday was Sisterwife Sleepover. My friend Alissa and I have discovered that we can put all our kids to bed at her house and they actually do pretty well. It’s really awesome (for us), not sure about her husband who keeps threatening to claim me on their taxes because I’m there so much. But the greatest part about this is I get to actually hang out with one of my best friends and not worry about getting a babysitter. Kirk always tells me that I should go out with my friends more, which in theory is awesome. But we all have kids, and husbands, and conflicting schedules, so it’s nearly impossible sometimes. I think that’s why I like going to her house so much (also: she has central AC and I do not) – because I truly love her and her family and it’s not a big hardship to get together. We have pretty similar parenting styles, our kids get along (for now at least!), our babies are essentially the same age. I’ve spent the night there before and didn’t even have to bring anything – they have literally everything I need. I’d give Hotel Tyminski five stars.

I would say this picture captures my week. On Saturday, the day Kirk came home- sitting on my kitchen floor, trying to get Sydney to drink a bottle in her carseat, on my way out the door because I forgot to pick up the damn dog from daycare. I was going to grab him after going to Target with the kids, but that shopping trip was so supremely awful that I completely spaced out on that. Oops. They were still open, so not a big deal- but it’s pretty indicative of my week. Busy, a little frazzled, trying to give the illusion that I am keeping it together, 100% exhausted. Kirk has traveled a ton since we’ve had Reid – once was for two weeks – and nothing has been as difficult as this. Kids are just RELENTLESS. I love them so much, but dear GOD I needed a break. But overall, we were fine. We survived. At some point during the week everyone got a bath, the house didn’t burn down, nobody had to go to the ER.

I’m not super excited for Kirk to travel again, but I can handle it. Just keep the wine fridge full.


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